Doing the Dishes with Steve
February 13th, 2011For at least a decade there was the same routine. Dina and I would have dinner on Saturday at Steve and Sharon’s. After dinner, Steve and I would do the dishes. Usually Steve would wash and I would dry. It would take us maybe an hour and during that hour we would talk. We’d catch up on what had happened during the week, share ideas and problems and just generally shoot the shit. It wasn’t the content that mattered; it was the conversation – the touching base. Two young fathers talking and doing the dishes together. I came to value that hour highly as the years rolled.
Then one Saturday after dinner Steve opened the door of his new dishwasher. It took us barely ten minutes to load it and the job was done. We moved on into the living room with Dina and Sharon.
It was not until a few Saturday dinners had passed that I realized that something important had happened; that the dishwashing hour was gone. That, even though other conversations happened, there had been something special about that hour and it was missed.
I don’t see Steve much these days. I’m in Vancouver; he’s in Calgary. But lately we have revived an old ritual of camping together for a week or so in the summer. Each night after dinner there are dishes to be done and, of course, no automatic dishwasher in sight. Steve and I are often the first to volunteer for the job.









